Why do we worry? We worry about the littlest things. We think about what might happen in the future, what happened in the past, what we will eat for breakfast next week, how many student loan we have, when will we be debt free, what that guy from elementary school is doing, if your parents will get rid of your stuff when you move to college, what your pet fish does all day, when will you start dating someone, what your best friend is doing right now, how the weather is like in other countries; the list is endless.
Don’t get me wrong, some things are natural to worry about; however, some things we need to let go. Who cares what the weather is like in other countries or what that guy from elementary school is doing? We need to live in the now and not worry about our future. God tells us to not worry.
Matthew 6:25-24 25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? 28 And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Verse 34 is the one that stands out the most to me. We need to focus on the day we are living and not yesterday or tomorrow because life happens all around us and we need to be present in it. I worry all the time and most of the time, nothing comes from it. I worry about silly things that I know will never happen. It is our natural instinct to worry.
I have some tips for all of you worriers out there.
Stop, breath, and move on. You do not need to worry. Stop yourself when you begin to worry. Take some time, take some deep breaths to calm yourself down. If you worry a lot, start small. Stop worrying about certain aspects of your life. If you take it one step at a time, you will be happier, want to live more, and be present where you are.
Live in the present. I was with a group of people at Applebee’s one time and one of the guys took all of our phones and set them in the middle of the table. He said that however touched their phone before the meal was over had to pay for everyone. That night was so much fun; we lived in the present and had actual conversations. None of us missed our phones and later that night I realized that I wish everyone did that. I do not know how many times I have been hanging out with friends who look at their phone constantly; sometimes I feel like I am talking to a wall. I am guilty of it as well. I try really hard not to look at my phone while I am hanging out with other people unless I know something important is going on that I need to be up to date about. We worry so much about knowing what is going in other people’s lives that we feel we need to look at social media 24/7. I do not know how many times I have been on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram just to look at what other people are doing. It is kind of sad. We need to stop worrying about what others are doing and live our own lives.
Don’t compare. Everyone is unique in their own ways. Some people were made to be sticks and some were made to have some meat on their bones. I bet 100% of women worry about their appearance. Whether it be what they are wearing, is their make-up okay, is their hair long enough or curly enough, etc. Do not waste your thoughts on something so petty. We were all made beautifully in God’s eyes. He made us pretty in our own ways. So if you want to eat the fourth cookie, eat it, if you want ice cream for dinner, do it, and don’t regret anything. I have a challenge for you. I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and say I am beautiful. I want you do this three times a day, once when you first wake up, bed head and all, once when you are ready for the day, outfit set, make-up and hair done, and once when you are about to go to bed. This will boost your confidence and you won’t worry about what others think of you because you know that you are beautiful and no one can tell you otherwise.
Seize the day. My mom had a sticker on the wall right beside the door for a long time that said carpe diem, which means seize the day in Latin. I used to not think anything about that saying, but now I see the importance of it. We need to seize every moment we have on this earth. Life is short and if you are not living life to the fullest, you may have regrets later in life. I am in my twenties and I used to think that I should be married and be done having all my kids in the next ten years. Now, I know that I should enjoy my single years and not worry about finding my future husband. I will most likely spend the majority of my life married with kids. I need to just enjoy this alone time while I can because it won’t be this way forever. I am not going to go out, get drunk, and sleep around. I am not that kind of girl. I will; however, enjoy spending time with family and friends, drive with my windows down even when I’m cold, and do fun, spontaneous activities that I will tell my kids about some day.
It is not hard to enjoy life. Take some time to think about some regrets you have from the past. Maybe it’s not going on a trip with your friends, staying in to study on a Friday night when you could have gone and had fun, not eating that fourth cookie last night; it could be anything. You should not have any regrets in your life. Live your life the way you want to live it. Please be responsible and do not do anything stupid or illegal, but enjoy the life you have. You only have one life and you need to enjoy it.