Trust the Plan

Dear Fellow College Graduates,

First of all, we did it! We now have a college education. We are now adults and out in the real world. We are living on our own, working a full time job, paying rent, and free from our parents. Well, at least that we wish we were doing. A lot of us are living back at home, working at a fast food or retail place, barely paying for nights out, and still have to check in with our parents. We have all of this knowledge about a career we picked three or four years ago, but there is also something missing from our brain bank.

How do we live in the adult world?

In college, they try and tell you about the real world and what you could expect to happen. The professors use real life examples, but we sometimes we aren’t paying attention. We might have been sleeping, texting, snapchatting, or talking quietly with our friends. We miss the warnings they give us about what we should expect and when we leave the grounds of the place we called home for the last couple of years we realized we are “freshmen” again. We are the bottom of the totem pole. We are the new kids on the block. We are the interns who are running to get the office coffee, making copies, answering the phone, and spending more time on Pinterest than we care to admit.

We start comparing our situation to our parents lives when they were our age, to others our age, to our siblings, and to anyone who we view as successful. We sit at our “desk” or cubical and think we are going to be here forever. As millennials, we feel that we are meant to do more in life. We have dreams and goals that we want to achieve by the time we are 30. Some of those might be get married, have kids, have a career, own a business, have three dogs, buy a house, live in five states, and the list goes on and on. We are the dreamers in this world. We expect a lot from ourselves.

I want you all to stop, sit down, and breathe. I want you to make a list of all of your plans for the next one, five, or ten years. Whatever comes to mind, write it down.

Here is my list. I made it for the next ten to fifteen years.

Now that you have your list, I want you to take it and tear it up. Yes, I said tear it up. Throw it away.

 

Now, I don’t want you to think that none of yours goals will come true. I do want you to realized that they are YOUR goals and plans. They are not God’s plans for you.

Matthew 6:25-34

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?27 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?[a] 28 And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, 29 yet I tell you,even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31 Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.34 “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

I know it is hard to swallow, but we are not here for our own gain. We are here for God’s plan. We are His and He does what he wants with us. Some of us will have all of our goals come true, some of us will only have a couple, and some of us may have none, but we need to trust His plan. He is in control of all that we do. He is the one writing our story, not us. We are the main character in a chapter of God’s book. We only take up a few pages, but He writes some pretty amazing pages about our life. We just have to relinquish our pen to Him. We may think we are great authors of this thing called life, but we don’t compare to His literacy.

The next time you think about your future. Hand God the pen. He will always take care of you. He has put you in the place and situation you are in for a purpose. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. All you need to do is trust His plan.

Growing into your own skin

As a middle schooler, I was not a girl with a lot of confidence. I was shy and did not have a huge amount of good friends. As I stepped into high school, I was realizing that I needed to find my own way. Be my own person. In college, I made it a point to be myself no matter what other people were doing. I let walls down around people not because I wanted them to feel sorry for me, but because I wanted to be open and vulnerable.

As a 22 year old college graduate, I can tell you it is not easy being yourself. We live in a culture that has stereotypes like none other. We judge people because they are different than us. We are all unique in our own way. We need to stop pushing others down so we feel better ourselves.

I was talking with one of my friends about a month ago and she impacted me in a big way. We have both been struggling with life recently and she told me this.

“These are hard times. Days get long and boring and annoying. Try to find the little joys in each day! Wear your favorite lipstick, play your favorite song to start your day. Read a poem! Do anything that’ll stop the days from blurring together. Choose joy!”

This makes me tear up because their are so many little joys in life that we take for granted.


These two pictures are from this past week. Summer storms are one of my favorite things because they normally bring rainbows. This was the brightest rainbow I have ever seen. The sunset was just as wonderful that night as you can tell.


This little guy is also one of my little joys. He may be a pistol and bug me a lot, but he can be sweet at the same time.

We need to find the joy in life, but we also need to be okay in our own skin. I have started working out more and eating healthier. I have already lost a pound or two, but it isn’t about my size, what others see when they look at me, or even that I am not a size two. I could care less about those things. I am doing this for me. I want to be able to say I am confident in my body and not self conscious all the time when I wear something fitted.

So this is going to be my mantra. Be confident. Choose joy. Be intentional.

Life is too short to not be happy. We have to find things that we love and hold on tight.

Dealing with a Loss

Sunday, July 10, 2016. Breanna Lemler, 21, passed away in a car accident.

Breanna was a daughter, sister, friend, DYW girl, Blueberry Festival Queen, and a follower of Jesus. Bre could light up any room with her smile and she was such an amazing lady.

Everyone deals with loss differently. Some avoid thinking about, some drink too much, some act like nothing happened, and some grief for a long time. As I think about a girl, who is my age who left this world too soon, I am grieving. I am wondering what happened and why God would do this.

God put it on my heart to write this because letting it out helps me process. I am realizing that He is trying to show me how short life is. We are not guaranteed tomorrow or even the next few minutes. We need to be living a life with no regrets. We need to be focusing on God more and more, understanding what He wants us to do, and live for Him.

Death is something we all avoid talking about because it brings about bad memories and wounds that still hurt. We need to talk about the bad things we go through so we can deal with them and not let them ruin our lives. Death is everywhere and if you are afraid of it, why? As a follower of Jesus, I know that death is not my end, but my beginning.

Bre’s death is a tragedy for everyone who meet her and interacted with her. She had such an impact and I am proud to call her my friend. Her death has taught me that I need to be living more for Christ than myself, that I need to be putting others before myself, and I need to be praying constantly for those in my life. God teaches and loves us in everything. He knows that Bre needed to come home even if no one understands that yet. She is in His arms and we will see her again.

If you have lost someone recently or are still grieving the loss of someone, talk about it with other people. Don’t keep it bottled up inside.

 

Halfway Mark

July 1st was the halfway mark of the year. It is crazy that this year is already half way over. I was looking through my goals for this year and I wanted to update y’all on my progress.

Graduate from college.  I have officially finished my last college class. I will just have to wait to receive my diploma in the mail.

Get a job.   This one has come true. I couldn’t be more excited that this on came true! I wasn’t expecting to get a job the week after I walked across the stage at graduation, but it happened.

Move to Nashville.   This hasn’t happened and will always be a dream of mine. I am staying in Indiana for a while, but this one will come true eventually.

Create a budget.  I am in the process of starting to create a budget. I am about to start making loan payments, I am making a car payment at the moment, and I know that having a budget will help with all of that.

Read and write more.  This is a difficult one to keep up on, but I am accomplishing it. I am starting to write on my blog more as y’all will see in the next couple of weeks and months. I am also reading a lot more. I have completely two physical books and I lost count of how many Kindle books I have read. It has been quite a few.

Perform in the school musical.   I am happy and proud to say that I was apart of the spring musical. It was my last one and it was my favorite. I was the choreographer and I also performed alongside several students that I have performed with in the past and several new students. We became family.

Have a girl’s trip with my college friends.  This hasn’t happened yet, but I am going to visit a couple of my friend’s in the next two months. I will definitely be posting about my travels, so keep an eye out for that.

Get into shape.   This has been fun. I started going to Zumba with my mom on Thursdays and we are going to start going to with my sister on Wednesdays. This is a great way to exercise because it’s dancing, but also a great workout. I am also hoping to start playing tennis  with my dad sometime soon. It is sometime I have wanted to learn, but never had the time.

Build a professional wardrobe.   I am happy to say this one is growing. Working at TJ Maxx, I definitely have an advantage with getting professional looking clothes. I have gotten several tops and slacks. I also just started Stitch Fix. I have only gotten one “fix”, but there are several more to come.

Make the present better.  I am working on this constantly. I sometimes get into a rut, but I know that life goes on and God has a plan for everything. I am happy to say that I am making it a point to be happy and see the good in everything.

I hope y’all are doing well on your New Year’s Resolutions! Tell me all about them on here or you can message me!

 

Until next time my sassy peaches,

EM

 

America the Beautiful

America. You are the only place I have ever lived. You are amazing and there is no place I would rather live.

The Fourth of July is one of my favorite holidays because it can mean something different for everyone. To me, it means family, fireworks, laughs, ice cream, and freedom.


On July 4, 1776, the Declaration of Independence was signed. The 13 colonies signed this and claimed their freedom from England. 56 men signed this declaration. They changed the lives of more men, women, and children than they could have ever imagined.

We celebrate the Fourth of July not to have a day off work or to get drunk with our friends. We celebrate because we are a free nation. 240 years ago, 56 men changed history. We are forever grateful for them. Instead of getting drunk and thinking about how much work you will have to do tomorrow, enjoy our nation! Celebrate with the other 300 million people in the United States of America! God bless you and God Bless America!