Not a Generational Thing

I work at an event center and we had a big expo the other day. There were two older women sitting outside my office. I could see them talking a little bit, but five minutes later they weren’t talking at all. I was confused and looked closer. They were both looking at their phones. I thought to myself that’s odd. Normally, teenagers are the ones scaring at a screen. I didn’t think anything else about it until that evening.

My parents and I go to the YMCA on Thursday nights. My mom and I do Zumba and my dad walks on the treadmill. I was driving them because my vehicle is the only one with air conditioning. We talked about our day on the way there. On the way home, I was driving I looked over at my mom and then in the backseat at my dad. They were both on their phones. I didn’t think anything of it until I realized they were on their phones the whole time. I almost made the joke, “Wow, this is how older people feel when we are on our phones.”

I am realizing that Millennials are kind of getting a bad rep with cell phones. I don’t know how many times I have been with friends and all they do is stare at their phone for have the time. I am not making excuses because I  do this too. I don’t like doing it unless it is important or I’m looking something up to show my friends. Millennials may have a problem with this, but everyone has a problem with this. People like to blame our generation because we grew up with technology in our lives. We rely on it for everything. We need to stop putting the blame on someone instead blame technology.

I know there are tons of opinions out there about this, but this is mine. We need to be intentional about putting technology down and focus on the here and now. You have probably heard this a million times, but I am realizing it’s true! We need to make the family and friends in our lives a priority. We aren’t guaranteed a tomorrow so we need to make the most of today. It is a choice to look at your phone instead of being engaged in conversation with those around you. If your friend has a huge problem with constantly looking at their phone, make a bet/agreement where you put your phones in the middle of the table and the first one to touch their phone has to pay for dinner or give the other one a certain amount of money. I know it is sad you have to bribe your friends to put down their phone, but they will learn with lesson if they have to pay you a lot of money.

This summer make it a priority to start putting your phone down. Don’t spend so much time on the internet. Enjoy those around you because they won’t be there forever.

 

Until next time my sassy peaches,

EM

This Pinterest World

We live in a world where we see people and say goals about their style, life, relationship status, or career. We live in a world where we look at Pinterest and tag the perfect house, with a white picket fence, a dog sitting on a white couch, a pool in the backyard, a walkin closet, and a gigantic bathroom. We watch movies where the characters don’t work for 8 hours a day, but have a penthouse apartment, and vacation in the Hamptons. We look at our Instagram feed and see people’s picture, perfect lives. We are jealous about what kind of heels our coworker wears, what type of car our friends drive, where our cousins live, and even what restaurants our college friends are going to.

We live in this Pinterest filled world where we think everyone has their crap together. We look at people in our lives and envy how well they are put together and how well behaved their kids are. We live in a world where everyone puts on a mask at some point. It could be just at work, it could be for special occasions, it could be in front of certain people, or it could be on so much that it takes over the real person who was once underneath.

We all think that we have to have our lives together and make others believe that we are put together. To be honest, we all hurt in someway or another.  We all have struggles, past or present, we are dealing with.

The next time you see someone and say goals, or see their perfect brunch, perfect family, perfect wardrobe, or their perfect house or apartment realize that they are human and have dealt with pain and suffering. Remember that they had to fight to be where they are. They had to push themselves to reach their goals. They have worked hard and are still working hard to reach their goals. We are all unique. We all have unique situations we deal with.

Some people deal with depression. Some people have lost a loved one. Some people are seeing war right outside their front door. Some people are fighting for other people’s freedom. Some people can’t have the family they dreamed of. Some people can’t seem to find a job. Some people are living with more money than they know what to do with. Some people are eating out of the garbage. Some people are dying. Some people are healing.

The next time you see someone and think how perfect they are I challenge you to pray for them. Pray they love the Lord. Pray they aren’t struggling with anything. Pray that they know they are loved. Pray that if they are struggling, that they know they have someone by their side. Pray that the Lord will show them His great love.

We all want people to see us as perfect. I encourage you to show people who you really are. Show them that you are not this put together person who looks on fleek all the time. Show them that you would rather be wearing your glasses and lounging in sweatpants. Show them that you are human. Show them you.

Single Girl in a Relationship filled World

Single

  • not having or including another : only one
  • not married or not having a serious romantic relationship with someone

Thank you Merriam-Webster dictionary.

Single is not a curse word, the plague or a disease, but it is a term to show that someone is not in a relationship.

I have been single for all of my 22 years of life. I don’t know any different. I am starting to realize that it is okay to be single. I am not broken in any way. I am just letting God prepare me for a relationship with a guy who may become my husband.

I think about being in a relationship probably more than I should, but what can you do. I have read countless books about dating, relationships, marriage, and singleness. Those have helped me come to the conclusion that this is a season. I am drawing closer to God and letting Him teach me how to live for Him before adding another man into my life. Here is some advice to all of you who know one of us single people.

Let us be single. We are single for a reason. Let it go.

If we are happy, be happy for us. Don’t constantly remind us we are single.

If we are recently single, don’t say there are more fish in the sea. We singles do watch rom-coms and we don’t need hear that 24 hours a day. Let us grieve, eat too much ice cream, and cry for a while.

If your single friend turns down your offers of setting them up, it is okay. Some of us like being single. There are enough dating services out there, we don’t need you to be one too.

If we ask you about your friends who are single, don’t get too eager. We might want to test the waters, but don’t push us off the cliff without a life jacket before we are ready.

We may have questions about relationships. We can also give you some advice on relationships even though we are single. Talk with us. We are good listeners and we like learning about how the other half lives.

We like being around people who are in relationships. We like seeing what could be in our future, but don’t flaunt it like this season’s Louis Vuitton pumps.

Just because we are single, doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy being with people. We love hanging out with friends and taking our time to get to know others.

It is okay to be jealous of us. We can eat whatever we want, we don’t have to ask another person for their opinions, and we can just stay in, watch movies, and drink wine whenever we want.

Singleness is not something to be ashamed of. We are in the stage of learning and growing as a person. If you have been single your whole life, a couple years, a couple months, days, or hours, know that you aren’t alone. You don’t have to step into a relationship you aren’t ready for. Take the singleness head on and live your life. It is a blessing to be single. 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 say, “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion”. This is saying that we need to enjoy the singleness while we can because we won’t be single forever. It is also a time to draw closer to God. Take the time to learn and grow in God’s presence. Once you add a significant other into your life, they draw half of your attention away from God. 

If you are single, know that this is a season. You are not broken, you are loved, and now is the time to draw closer to God.

Finally settling in 

Three months ago, I walked across the stage at graduation. It was also the day I moved back home. I am happy to say that I am finally settling into my room and making it seem like home.

When I first moved home, I thought I would be there until August and then move. God had other plans. I didn’t want to get completely settled in and then have to move in a couple months. I am staying for the time being and I am starting to make it home.

As a college student, I didn’t life at home for more than three weeks at a time. Those three weeks were when I was home for Christmas break. I didn’t live at home during the summer. I had a job up at school both summers so I stayed up there. I am thankful my parents are letting me stay there until I figured money and everything out.

I have officially settled in and started to finally feel like it’s my room again. I haven’t cleaned out my closet since leaving for college and oh my did it need it. I gradually keep getting rid of clothes, stuff, and random papers. This past week I started my third or fourth bag for Goodwill. It feels great to have space in my closet for clothes I actually wear instead of clothes that have just sat there for who knows how long.

If you live at home for a couple days, weeks, or months during college, make the most of it. Settle in and make the space yours. You feel a lot better when you feel comfortable and relaxed when the space is how you want it. It also helps you to remember where things are around your room.