Single Girl in a Relationship filled World


  • not having or including another : only one
  • not married or not having a serious romantic relationship with someone

Thank you Merriam-Webster dictionary.

Single is not a curse word, the plague or a disease, but it is a term to show that someone is not in a relationship.

I have been single for all of my 22 years of life. I don’t know any different. I am starting to realize that it is okay to be single. I am not broken in any way. I am just letting God prepare me for a relationship with a guy who may become my husband.

I think about being in a relationship probably more than I should, but what can you do. I have read countless books about dating, relationships, marriage, and singleness. Those have helped me come to the conclusion that this is a season. I am drawing closer to God and letting Him teach me how to live for Him before adding another man into my life. Here is some advice to all of you who know one of us single people.

Let us be single. We are single for a reason. Let it go.

If we are happy, be happy for us. Don’t constantly remind us we are single.

If we are recently single, don’t say there are more fish in the sea. We singles do watch rom-coms and we don’t need hear that 24 hours a day. Let us grieve, eat too much ice cream, and cry for a while.

If your single friend turns down your offers of setting them up, it is okay. Some of us like being single. There are enough dating services out there, we don’t need you to be one too.

If we ask you about your friends who are single, don’t get too eager. We might want to test the waters, but don’t push us off the cliff without a life jacket before we are ready.

We may have questions about relationships. We can also give you some advice on relationships even though we are single. Talk with us. We are good listeners and we like learning about how the other half lives.

We like being around people who are in relationships. We like seeing what could be in our future, but don’t flaunt it like this season’s Louis Vuitton pumps.

Just because we are single, doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy being with people. We love hanging out with friends and taking our time to get to know others.

It is okay to be jealous of us. We can eat whatever we want, we don’t have to ask another person for their opinions, and we can just stay in, watch movies, and drink wine whenever we want.

Singleness is not something to be ashamed of. We are in the stage of learning and growing as a person. If you have been single your whole life, a couple years, a couple months, days, or hours, know that you aren’t alone. You don’t have to step into a relationship you aren’t ready for. Take the singleness head on and live your life. It is a blessing to be single. 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 say, “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion”. This is saying that we need to enjoy the singleness while we can because we won’t be single forever. It is also a time to draw closer to God. Take the time to learn and grow in God’s presence. Once you add a significant other into your life, they draw half of your attention away from God. 

If you are single, know that this is a season. You are not broken, you are loved, and now is the time to draw closer to God.